Everyone makes mistakes when raising children. Even when we become adults, we are not perfect and we can’t always understand what our actions look like from the outside and how they will affect future generations. But some methods of raising children actually do more harm than good.
clamotion decided to find out about the common mistakes parents often make and what they can lead to.
1. Punishing children in front of others
Sometimes, mothers and fathers get mad, they yell, and even punish their children in front of other people. In moments like these, they’re not thinking about the others. But children actually care about the opinion of the people around them. And public shaming undermines children’s self-confidence. It makes them feel really ashamed and it is hard for them to shake it off.
2. Influence from the past
The things that happen in our childhood leave an imprint on what kind of parents we will be. But it doesn’t mean that we are doomed to repeat our fathers’ and mothers’ mistakes. It is important to learn from their mistakes and try to shield the future generations from these negative emotions.
For example, we now know today that corporal punishment only has negative consequences. But many modern parents still resort to this kind of punishment and try to justify their actions by saying that their parents did it to them. We should not try to excuse our wrongdoing by saying, “My father did this, so I’ll do it too.” Instead, we should try to be the people who break the cycle.
3. Being too self-restrained
If we don’t hug our children often and don’t tell them that we love them, they might become emotionally isolated from the family. When we don’t listen to their feelings and opinions or when we are indifferent, it is very likely that our kids will act the same way with other people. It might be hard for them to be intimate with someone, trust other people, make friends, or start a family.
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