How To Overcome Struggling With Self Confidence: 30 Day Self Confidence Challenge

Well for starters, if the First Lady of the United States still gets imposter syndrome, I think we can all cut ourselves a break!

What’s important to take away from that message is that putting yourself out there is hard! So many of us struggle with feeling inadequate or not good enough, but it is important to remain true to yourself and do it anyway.

DO IT EVEN IF YOU’RE SCARED. Taking action is how you gain confidence!

2. Do It Anyway

The second best way to overcome struggling with self confidence is to “do it anyway”.

What do I mean by “do it anyway”?

Often times when we think about self-confidence we think “I wish I had the confidence to do that” or “when I get confident enough I’ll do that” or “Wow! She’s so confident, I could never do what she does.”

The truth is. YOU CAN.

When I started this blog I didn’t want to share it with anyone. NO ONE. I didn’t even want to read my posts to my husband. Part of this is because my posts were a fun outlet to help me cope and heal during my postpartum, but a large part was because I wasn’t confident in my writing or the blogging process.

The reality is, the only way I was going to get better and learn about the process is if I just put myself out there.

Even though I still get nervous, it is imperative to “do it anyway”.

Do the thing that scares you, that you’re afraid of, and the thing that sets your soul on fire.

Why is it important to overcome struggles with self-confidence?

Confidence is sexy.

On the days I feel confident, I present my best self. I am a better wife, mother, employee, and friend.

When I am mentally, physically, and spiritually grounded I release an orra, an extra umph…I have a little pep in my step. I have more energy and I feel radiant.

That kind of self-worth and radiating love for yourself is not only noticeable, but it’s also attractive.

Science proves self-confidence is good for you.

Psychological studies tell us self-esteem is good for you. Possessing an adequate amount of self-esteem prevents depression, helps achieve maximum potential, and leads to healthy relationships with others.

In addition, self-esteem is necessary for your personal and professional growth. Improving your self-esteem takes diligence and practice.

It comes much more easily for some than for others, but that doesn’t mean anyone is more deserving or better at something than you.

Our children are watching

As a Black girl, I grew up always searching for people who looked like me I could relate to.

For me, my celebrity heroes were Maya Angelou, Beyonce, Michelle Obama, and famous black women from 90’s TV shows like The Cosby Show and Fresh Prince of Bellair.

In my own reality, my hero was my mom. Any time I struggled with self-confidence my mom was there to provide guidance and coach me on the importance of believing in myself.

Now that I’m a mom, I’m always conscious about how the decisions I make will influence my son and his future. Our kids are always watching us.

If we want our kids to feel like they can do anything, they need to see how important it is to push through any self-doubt telling us “we can’t or “we’re not good enough”.

The Self Confidence Challenge!

This post marks my commitment to increasing confidence in myself and having faith in what God has in store for me.

I ask you, my tribe, to join me in this challenge of self-confidence and self-worth.

Remember, everyone struggles with self-confidence at some point. Literally everyone! This challenge is meant to be fun and serves as a reminder that confidence is beautiful.

Write out as many of these as possible to increase accountability! I suggest using the notes section on your phone, using a journal or planner, or using social media. B

Are you in? Take the challenge!  Join me in the 30 day self confidence challenge.

Day One: Write out three things you love about yourself

Day Two: Write out three goals you have for your future

Day Three: Take a selfie

Day Four: Get dressed up to go nowhere

Day Five: Complete this sentence: I feel happy when…

Day Six: Do one thing that makes you scared

Day Seven: Treat yourself to your favorite meal

Day Eight: Ask three close friends or family members what their favorite thing about you is.

Day Nine: Write out one quality about yourself that makes you unique

Day Ten: Write out one thing you’ve done for your family

Day Eleven: Write out one thing you’ve done to help someone else

Day Twelve: Identify a change you want to make in your life and the specific steps to implement that change

Day Thirteen: Music has a direct effect on self-esteem. Create a “feel good” playlist

Day Fourteen: Create a schedule for the weekend and follow it!

Day Fifteen: Write out three fears and how you can overcome each of them

Day Sixteen: List your favorite part of your body

Day Seventeen: Go on a walk outdoors without your phone

Day Eighteen: Do something that makes you feel special

Day Nineteen: What is one activity that excites you? Do it.

Day Twenty: Pray or meditate for 15 minutes first thing in the morning.

Day Twenty One: Look in the mirror and say a self-affirmation

Day Twenty-Two: Buy yourself something new (it can be a small, inexpensive item)

Day Twenty Three: Do one minute of deep breathing exercises first thing in the morning and right before bed

Day Twenty Four: Eat mindfully all-day

Day Twenty-Five: Write down three mistakes you’ve made and what you learned from them

Day Twenty-Six: Workout (it can be an at-home workout or even a short jog)

Day Twenty Seven: Create a personal mantra

Day Twenty-Eight: Text a friend and let them know why they matter to you

Day Twenty Nine: Write a love letter to yourself. In your letter, remind yourself why you are beautiful, unique, and worthy of being your absolute best

Day Thirty: Create a time capsule. Here’s what you should put inside of it:

• Name
• Date
• Selfie
• Family Picture
• List a goal you’d like to achieve
• List your favorite thing about your body
• List (or take a picture) your favorite outfit
• List your favorite thing to do
• Include the letter to yourself (written on day twenty-nine)
• Open the time capsule one year from this date and reflect